**hugs** It's totally not my place to say this at all, so please forgive me, but I don't think your mum should have said that either. :p Soujin + not doing nice things for someone = does not compute. You obviously care about other people, including your family. So there.

Oh, and the "grr you're only doing this because I told you to" is urgh, should she actually do that. My grandmother said things like that to me all the time--she guilt-tripped or conned me into going downstairs to visit her and then complained at me about how I never visited unless she made me. Which was a real incentive to visit more, of course. :p