"One Day Nearer to Dying..."

[psalm_onethirtyone]

Remember how I said it was going to kill me if anybody at Stoneybridge died?

Well.

Harry did, yesterday.

He was this sweet old fellow who's Charlie's best friend, and I knew he'd gone to the hospital a few days ago, but I thought they brought him back because his condition had definitely improved, so he didn't have to stay there. He's been with us so long that his room is pretty much his, and--oh, gah. I didn't even know him all that well.

I feel sad. Very, very sad.

I wonder if I should go to the funeral.

Comments

[bewareofitalics]

*hugs*

[rainbowjehan.livejournal.com]

*hugsback* Thank you.

[erinpuff]

Ohh... *hugs*

[rainbowjehan.livejournal.com]

*is hugged* Thanks.

[theatre-angel.livejournal.com]

*so many hugs*

I'm very sorry about Charlie. I suppose you should go to the funeral if you really want to, but if it will only make you sadder, I wouldn't want you to go because I don't want you to be sad. :-(

*snuggles*

[rainbowjehan.livejournal.com]

*thanks you so much for the hugs*

I'm sorry too. I sort of wanted to go to the funeral, but I can't; it's on Saint Nicolas' Sunday, and I'm acolyting at church. Also, to-morrow, I go to put wreathes on Grandma and Grandpa's graves with Da' and the Aunts, and I think I shall be sad already. I don't think I truly want to be sad like that two days in a row. I just... don't. It's probably selfish of me, though. >_>

*clings* I confuse myself. 'Tis rather sad.

[sparklychibi.livejournal.com]

Oh, poor dearling. *hugs very much*

[rainbowjehan.livejournal.com]

Thank you. *hugs back*

[tiamatschild.livejournal.com]

*hugs* It depends, dear. Funerals are a good way to say goodbye, even though they're often a bit overwhelming. I think his family and friends would like it if you went. But really, it comes down to you. Do you think you'll feel better if you go?

[rainbowjehan.livejournal.com]

*clings* Well, the truth is, I can't go because there are conflicting things happening, but I'm not sure if I'd feel better if I did go. I didn't know him as well as I'd have liked to, because mostly he was just 'that sweet old smiling fellow who waved to me at Bingo', and I'd feel sort of like I was just becoming to be there, if you know what I mean... I wouldn't feel like I was supposed to be there, not the way I would if it were Anna or Grandma Jennie. So I don't know; but I can't go. I didn't say good-bye very well at Grandma's funeral, either, I don't think, because I still think she's alive. I always forget. And I still feel guilty because I was afraid to go to see her body after she'd died, and I think I should have... so--

--I'm messed up. >_> I'm sorry. Gah.

[mmebahorel.livejournal.com]

There's nothing wrong with not seeing her body. Corpses are very weird things. Trust me. I was about your age when my last grandparent died, and we hadn't been close in years (in fact, I was bitter about having to attend the funeral and I still haven't entirely forgiven her for being two-faced), but I cried for half an hour when my mother told me she had died. And let me tell you, they cake on the makeup to try to make a corpse not look like a corpse, and it's really stiff because of the blood replacement, and it's cold from the refrigeration, and it's just generally weird. Corpses are not people. And funerals have to happen too early to take into account the grief process for most people, so in a lot of ways, they don't fill their intended function. You shouldn't feel weird if you're not past something just because the funeral is over.

[rainbowjehan.livejournal.com]

Well, this wasn't a viewing. This was actually just a 'she-died-two-minutes-ago-wanna-come-see?' thing, technically, and I was still in shock from having found out that she had, in fact, died two minutes ago, so it was a little weird.

And that makes sense about funerals. Thank you.

[danica-enjolras.livejournal.com]

*huggles muchly*

[rainbowjehan.livejournal.com]

*hugsback* Thanks.

[cimmerianwillow.livejournal.com]

*hugs* I know that I'll be going through this eventually, when one of my ladies passes on, and you have my total sympathies. As for the funeral, only go if it's something you feel comfortable with. As much as I love all of my ladies, there are only a few whose funeral I would attend, because they are my extra special ladies, if that makes sense, and it would give *me* a greater sense of closure.

[rainbowjehan.livejournal.com]

*hugs back* Thank you so much. There is a conflict, so that I can't go if I wanted to, but I think I agree with what you've said. I would go to Anna's funeral, but I didn't know Harry well enough, and I think I would even feel guilty going when I hardly knew him. Pretentious, if you will. But thank you; everybody's sympathies and advice are so wonderful in this situation.

[and-i.livejournal.com]

Oh hon, *hugs you*.

[rainbowjehan.livejournal.com]

Thank you. *hugsback*