"And I Bet You're Making Shells Back Home..."

[psalm_onethirtyone]

Dear Phil:

You are a sweetheart. You are a lovely lovely person and a good friend and believe me I know and appreciate this fact. I do. But we need to talk about something.

Phil, you actually know, unlike many people out there with whom I am friends, that I am in remission for an eating disorder. And I know that you just care about my health and want to make sure I am doing okay, but, for God's sake, Phil, can you please please shut up about my portion sizes?

Because, see, when you comment on how much I'm eating it reaffirms for me a very unpleasant idea, the idea that everyone in the world ever is watching me eat and judging me for what I eat. I know it seems like one little comment to you, but for me it means everyone is judging me ahhhhhhh. And then I have to go home and cry all night.

So please stop.

Love,
Soujin

addendum to Liz: Thank you for saying that it only looked like a lot of ice cream because it was in a bowl instead of a cup like everyone else's. And for saying that I was sick and deserved lots of ice cream anyway. You are a true friend. ♥

Comments

[lokogato.livejournal.com]

:( HOPEFULLY PHIL GETS A CLUE. *sends internet ice-cream*

[mhari.livejournal.com]

Auuuuuugh. *beans him on the head*

You DO deserve lots of ice cream. Also chicken soup, chocolate, and stickers. Because yes.

[gileonnen.livejournal.com]

Ack, that's just unfortunate. Liz sounds spectacular and Phil can go suck on an ice lolly.

Thank you for reminding me--I need to go have ice cream at some point. <333

[reconditarmonia.livejournal.com]

<3 Liz <333333 Soujin

[holyschist.livejournal.com]

What! He should know better. :(

[josiana.livejournal.com]

*clings* D': That's not sensitive at all.

[perculious.livejournal.com]

The only people who actually care about what other people eat are people who are VERY INSECURE ABOUT THEIR OWN PORTION SIZES and are projecting unfairly! Ice cream has lots of protein and is therefore good for you. Take it from someone who never gets enough protein. ♥ Also, I am not in remission from an eating disorder, and if someone told me they thought I was eating too much I would probably also go home and cry all night because that's a mean thing to say. There is no such thing as eating too much—there's only eating what you want to eat and what feels right to you. There should never be any sort of moral judgment assigned to that.

[watchcry.livejournal.com]

Phil needs to work a bit on his sweetheartisms. Liz sounds great though ^___^